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He was passive in their arguments, hoping to avoid confrontation. Whatever the flaws in their relationship, he told himself, being with her was better than being single in Portland again. Now in his early 30s, Jacob felt he had no idea how to make a relationship work.

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It was sleeker, faster, more efficient. And the population of online daters in Portland seemed to have tripled. Did online dating change my perception of permanence?

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He likes the pharmacist most. The problem is that she wants to take things slow on the physical side. One night the paralegal confides in him: And he thinks, Oh my God. While out with one woman, he has to silence text messages coming in from others.

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